2022 Mid Year Check-in

In somewhat of a public diary, let’s take a look at the things we’ve done, the things we still want to do, and the things we have put to the side. Why do I talk about myself in the third person in the overview, but first person in the actual writing? Who is to say.

Quick H1 life updates

  • Started work at Spotify

    • After a frustratingly painful time in eCommerce, I’m remarkably thankful to be back in Tech. It’s comfortable, my senior manager is superb, and I’m challenged. 10/10 upgrade, and I’m not looking back. It’s nice to have trajectory.

  • Got the ‘Rony

    • It wasn’t awful, but still quite a nuisance. Very grateful I got it out of the way before Italy, though.

  • Italy trip

    • Unbelievably grateful to have experienced that with my closest friends, celebrating our former roommate as he got married.

Let’s take a look at what we’ve accomplished

Done, as of July 11th , 2022

  • take subjective risks

    • go on (a) date(s)

      • Gone on three first-dates. To be honest, I’m really proud of myself for this one, as it’s been a lesser priority for the past four or five years. While the people I’ve met have been wholesome, kind, and brilliant, I haven’t felt much chemistry with anyone in particular yet.

    • push my body to reach maximums in the gym

      • I’ve benched a new maximum, squatted a new maximum, and am definitely hitting the gym on the most consistent basis than I have since college.

        • While I haven’t lost a significant amount of weight, I feel (and AM) stronger physically.

  • specific conscious savings

    • consciously start to save for a future wedding ring (? lmao)

      • Continual journey, but putting aside a few investments every now and then in hopes of selling them for when I need to buy a ring.

      • Also did a poll within friends of how much someone in their late-twenties in a large metropolis can expect to spend on a ring. The median and mode answers were $10K USD. Zoinks, scoobs!

  • be my best self in Italy (June 2022)

  • narrow down the card collection

    • Soto, Curry, Griffey, Leclerc/Ferrari

      • This has been relatively easy because of the economy. Selling has been easy, though not at the prices I ideally want. Still working on acquiring some nice JRods and Trouts, but Leclerc, Griffey, Soto, and Curry anchor my personal collection.

  • get to know my neighbors and doormen/women

    • really i just want them to know that i care for them and value them

      • tbd on how to show this

    • This is also an ongoing effort. I celebrated my two favorite late-night doormen/women by making Lemon Bars for their birthday. They thoroughly enjoyed that, and I hope to do things like that more. I actively will continue to make an effort to say “hello” and go beyond the quick formalities when walking by.

  • continue active effort into further understanding the following concepts, (continue work w therapist, close friends on these)

    • feminism from a male pov

    • wealth privilege

    • male privilege

    • why i so often feel the need to be contrarian

    • All of the above are continually in progress and ongoing discussions, but the fact that I’ve brought them up in therapy and with close friends has been (to me) a mark of success.

  • commit to building relationships in the Church

    • Ongoing

  • solo travel to a new country again

    • keep countries visited > age

      • Visited Colombia

      • Will be traveling to Sweden for work at Spotify (as well as Barcelona, again).

  • write more

    • Does this count? lol.

what I won’t do

  • withdraw any cryptocurrency or index funds

    • Holding pat, even in current economic situation

  • lyft/uber sober. make time a priority

    • Consciously apply this, though I still do Uber/Lyft sober occasionally. I’m very happy with my progress on this one.

  • be disappointed if I fail.

    • Not beating myself up on this, even though I ended up doing most of the “what I won’t do”s.

nutty stretch goals

  • pitch four 0 ERA innings in a row, between a maximum of two games

    • No, but we made the playoffs. I call that a win. I am having a horrendous season at the plate, but am contributing defensively, so I don’t feel like I’m complete dead weight to my team.

  • find a way to perform

    • Somewhat done through visual arts and media